Tuesday, May 3, 2011

Kinky "Elevator Pitch" - Do You Have One?

I've been at a couple of parties lately where I bottomed to a person I hadn't played with before. In both cases, the person asked me, "What do you like?" My initial answers were somewhere along the lines of: "Um, *giggle*, geez, um...well, I like...stuff. Hmm...."

Wow. I have to get better at this. I have started to wonder if I need an elevator pitch for my kink.

I can talk about what I like as a bottom in a more neutral social environment. Or if someone else is talking about something and I get kind of turned on, I know that I like that. Also, if I'm topping, I seem to be at least a little better at articulating what I might want to do, possibly because I'm newer at topping, and there are fewer activities I feel I can offer with confidence.

Part of the problem is that, activities-wise, I have liked a lot of things. I think a more relevant question for me is, "how do you like to feel?" That question automatically makes me feel more vulnerable, though. It's easier to say "I like bondage and nipple play" than "I want to feel like I am so desirable that you can't resist tying me down and ravishing me."

Also, I wonder if that puts undue pressure on the top, or if saying how I like to feel even makes sense from the top's perspective. If I were topping someone, that would be information I would want to have, but maybe I'm an anomaly. One of my communication weaknesses, in general, is overloading people with information (you should have heard the driving directions I used to give in the age before Google Maps and GPS). I don't want to do that when negotiating.

Fellow perverts: how do you answer the question "What do you like?" Do you have an elevator pitch? What kinds of information does it include? Do you have any tricks for remembering it when you are in the presence of someone hot who wants to do nasty things to you?

Please comment!